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Why Our Kids Become Aggressive

Why Our Kids Become Aggressive

My beautiful little boy has become aggressive & annoying.  He’s roaring like a lion at everyone, hitting out at his friends and threw a train at another child’s head at playgroup this week.  Marvellous……

How are yours?  Are any of them acting up & lashing out?  It’s bloody irritating isn’t it?!

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George is 2 years & 8 months, so this behaviour is ‘normal’.  But it’s still incredibly frustrating!  And embarrassing (especially at playgroup where I had just been talking about how amazing Aware Parenting / Parenting by Connection is!!).

So if your child is also being ‘challenging’ (the euphemism for being a complete pain in the a***!), it’s really worth considering:

WHY?

For George, this comes off the back of 3 weeks where my main focus was being with my mum.  Yes I was with him, but I wasn’t that focused on him.  Which led to 2 consequences:

1. I haven’t given him enough attention
2. He hasn’t had enough opportunity to cry or tantrum with me.

1. Attention

People often describe kids as “just doing it for attention” and then decide that the best way to deal with the situation is to not give the child any attention, so that they learn not to behave like that.

Which is a bit like realising our children are becoming whiney because they’re hungry, and refusing to give them food.

Attention = connection.  And it’s vital for all of us, particularly our children.

So when your child is playing up because they’re wanting your attention, the best way to deal with the behaviour, is to give them your loving attention.

2. Crying

By giving our attention, this can sometimes lead to a tantrum or a big cry.  Although it seems like a negative, it’s actually incredibly helpful.

Crying allows our children to release any stress they’ve been carrying – ranging from everyday things, to a bigger hurt.

I usually listen to George daily around nap or bed time, or when I set a limit.

By me not really doing so for 3 – 4 weeks, he’s got a LOT of pent up upset feelings which are needing an outlet.

So that outlet has become roaring like a lion, kicking his best friend, and throwing a train at another child.  None of which are helpful or endearing strategies!

If any of this behaviour sounds familiar or you’d like to understand more about how to deal with aggressive behaviour in young children, join me for a dedicated Webinar on Reducing Aggressive Behaviour In Your Children

Find out:
– WHY your child is lashing out (there can be more reasons than you think)
– WHAT you can do at home to help with their aggression
– HOW to help your child in the heat of the moment
– HOW to reduce aggressive behaviour when they are away from you at day care, preschool or school

This will be a highly practical webinar for parents of children aged 2 – 9, offering you lots of great information and tangible strategies you can use straight away with your children.

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